See your relationship clearly with CoupleRef
An AI Alternative to Couples Therapy: Science-based, Neutral, Affordable, Available 24/7 - No Waiting No Taking Sides
An AI Alternative to Couples Therapy: Science-based, Neutral, Affordable, Available 24/7 - No Waiting No Taking Sides
CoupleRef uses short psychological assessments to understand your relationship dynamics, then creates a personalized plan to help you and your partner understand each other better, improve communication, and strengthen your connection.
Take a series of short, science-based assessments that explore every part of your relationship—communication, intimacy, finances, trust, life goals, and more.
These insights give CoupleRef a deep understanding of your unique dynamics, so it can guide you with precision and empathy.
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CoupleRef helps you prepare for productive conversations by offering individualized communication coaching and couple discussion guides.
You'll each learn how to express your needs - and really listen - without blame or defensiveness
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Move from awareness to growth with applied learning experiences that teach proven relationship skills.
Practice new ways of interacting, responding to conflict, and building connection—at your own pace, in real situations that matter.
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Build a personalized roadmap with CoupleRef—structured guidance, templates, and tools that help you maintain progress, navigate challenges, and strengthen your connection for the long term.
Get a science-backed analysis of your unique relationship patterns and emotional dynamics.
Understand what drives conflict and connection between you and your partner.
Receive neutral, personalized guidance to help you communicate and resolve issues faster.
Explore interactive exercises designed to build trust and deepen your connection.
Gain insight into your partner’s needs, triggers, and emotional responses.
Practice new ways to express yourself and listen with empathy in a safe space.
Track your progress and celebrate growth as you strengthen your relationship together.
Access support anytime—no waiting for appointments or navigating therapy logistics.
Need help with an immediate issue or just want to vent? Our AI Couples Therapist is available 24/7 to support you
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You and your partner can chat live with an AI Conflict Mediator that is available 24/7 and does not take sides. Work through disagreements calmly and productively - without escalation
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Need to say something difficult? CoupleRef's AI coach helps you find the right words and tone, offering real-time feedback to express yourself clearly and compassionately.
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Ever feel like you just don't get your partner? After both of your complete assessments, CoupleRef helps you decode each other's emotional patterns and find ways to reconnect.
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You can use CoupleRef on any web connected device, laptop, tablet, or phone, now downloads required.
Real stories, real progress
CoupleRef helped me understand that when my partner is 'avoidant' it's not that he does not care, he just needs time to process things on his own first
In my AI coaching sessions, I learned to express my needs and fustrations without making my partner feel blamed or attacked.
Some of the patterns it showed were things we didn’t even realize we were doing. Seeing them spelled out made it easier to change how we react
The AI Conflict Mediator helped us work through some of our toughest issues. Now it feels like we are on the same team again
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Starter
Free
Start free - See what your results reveal about you and your partner
Includes:
Complete 3 validated relationship assessments
Get a personalized summary of your relationship dynamics
Access your first AI-guided coaching session
Explore basic conflict resolution tools
Access one personalized course
Growth
$30/mo Per Couple
Turn insights into lasting changge
Everything in Starter, plus:
Unlimited access to all assessments
Full relationship dynamics analysis (based on multiple validated frameworks)
Ongoing AI communication and conflict resolution
Personalized learning modules and couple reflection guides
Advanced CoupleGoals templates and progress tracking
CoupleRef is based on Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), a leading evidence-based approach. Research shows that most couples experience significant improvement after EFT. It helps partners understand emotions, recognize patterns of conflict and closeness, and build secure attachment, fostering deeper connection and communication.
CoupleRef is different from traditional therapy — there are no hour-long sessions. You start with short assessments (about 5 minutes each) across areas like intimacy, finances, and communication. These assessments give CoupleRef insight into your relationship dynamics. Based on your results, the platform creates short, targeted exercises, guided partner discussions, applied learning tasks, and goal-setting sessions that you can complete at your own pace.
This approach is unique to CoupleRef and is called ASAP (Assess → Share → Apply → Plan). As needed, you can also check in for conflict resolution and communication coaching via chat with the AI therapist.
No — your conversations with CoupleRef are private. You can invite your partner to specific discussion or conflict-resolution sessions, and assessment results are only visible to your partner if you choose to share them.
You can remain 100% anonymous with CoupleRef. The platform understands your relationship and emotional dynamics without any personal identifying information. You don’t need to provide your real email, giving you the freedom to share openly and securely.
Discover a science-based, AI-powered way to understand your relationship, communicate better, and build lasting connection—no waiting, no judgment.
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